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Online Dating
What Makes Online Dating So
Different?
by Jae Taylor
The concept of finding a life partner with the help
of the Internet is a fairly recent concept when
compared with the history of man kind as such. Of
course the internet and computers have influenced
man’s life so much that it is no surprise that
in the matters of finding a suitable partner too,
the Internet has made its presence felt.
Online dating is, to put is very simply or flatly,
finding a partner with the help of a machine namely
the computer via the Internet. That itself makes
the idea and the process a very novel one indeed,
Hundreds of happy people across the globe have been
successful in finding suitable partners by the means
of Online dating.
Everything that applies to the Internet, applies
to Online dating as well. The Internet as we know
allows for unlimited possibilities in communication,
and it is this feature that has proved to be at
the same time the biggest boon, as well as bane
for Online dating.
People can start from scratch and get to know everything
about each other before the actual meeting takes
place. Tastes and preferences, likes and dislikes,
interests and obsessions can be discussed on a one
to one basis so that when the meeting actually takes
place these two people are not in the least strangers
to each other. Wonderful, isn’t it?
But at the same time this possibility for unlimited
communication leaves a lot of space for guile as
well. The human race is endowed with a remarkable
ability to use, misuse and abuse the same thing.
And naturally, Online dating too has been and is
still being used for vile purposes.
The person who is misusing this facility may either
be a practical joker or may be someone with more
devious intentions who is out to get some victims.
It is because of this reason that a little bit of
home work is good before you actually hit the road.
The first tip I would like to give you is NOT to
go straight away into a singles’ chat room
and try to find somebody who would interest you.
All of us know that most of such chat rooms are
virtually flooded with people who have only one
thing on their mind - sex. So, no matter what you
ask for, it always ends up in that and the purpose
is defeated. You will never get the kind of person
who kind of matches your interests and tastes.
You have to be on your guard all the time and keep
constantly reminding your self that the person you
are chatting with is, after all a stranger and a
goodness-knows-what. The best thing that you could
do is avoid instant intimacy altogether.
It doesn’t really matter if the other person
finds you cold or reserved, you can easily solve
that by telling the other person that it takes sometime
for you to become comfortable with a person. That
in fact is a good quality because it is as good
as saying, “Well, I’m sorry I’m not
the loose kind who plays around.”
4 Ways To Tell If Someone Is Lying
As discussed earlier, we are not going to resort
to singles’ chat rooms dedicated specifically
to online dating. Instead we will be in chat rooms
of specific interest. So one very effective way
of finding out if a person is lying would be to
ask the person very pointed questions about the
area of interest. If the person fumbles or gives
vague answers then you do not have to waste your
time on such a person.
Another thing that you could do is that from the
moment you first make contact, jot down whatever
details the person chooses to reveal to you and
in subsequent encounters nonchalantly question the
person about the details, if there is a contradiction
in the two details then you can be as sure as pat
that the person is lying.
Ask the person seemingly general questions but which
in fact should have a very definite purpose, for
example ask the person what he or she is looking
for in such a relationship. Note down the answer.
After two or three encounters again repeat the question
and see whether the two answers match.
You could try pretending that you have chatted with
the person before and innocently ask the person
if he or she is such and such person (make something
up) and try offering compliments to the person like,
“I really enjoyed chatting with you the other
day. You were perfectly charming…” and
so on. If the person falls for cheap flattery like
this, then obviously he or she makes it a hobby
to chat with people under various identities.
And so the chatting goes on until the person really
grows on you. When you feel that you can really
trust the person, you may try giving the person
your telephone number. Remember that this too is
a giant leap towards building a relationship so
it’s better that you be sure than sorry.
The safest thing you can do about telephone numbers
is to mutually exchange it preferably at the same
time, so that neither party is at a disadvantage.
It’s really no big deal, you can afford to
tell the person that you are just being wary, the
person will understand. If he or she does not, then
there is a good chance that he or she will not understand
a lot of other things as well. In that case, dump
the person. More resources: http:www.onlinedating-4u.com
About The Author
Jae Taylor is an en expert in the field of communication,
his focus is to help women and men understand, respect
and appreciate their differences. On his website,
he provides many resources that can effectively
lead to happiness and lasting romance.
http://www.onlinedating-4u.com
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