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Online Dating
Online Dating For Dummies
by HM Hovis
Whether you have been dating for years, getting
back in the game, or just starting out, you could
always use a bit of dating advice. Not the kind
you get from your mother, but rather the kind that
actually might get you past the first date, on to
the 2nd and perhaps on to a happily ever after.
So you have decided to date and you are thinking
about the "online dating" thing? Well,
why not. To be cliche' everyone is doing it! In
today's action packed, hustle, bustle world, who
had time or energy to meet the traditional ways.
Online meeting has become a norm, and is gaining
in acceptability.
Writing Your Profile Many online dating services
offer assistance in writing your profile, if you
are not a good writer then this may be something
you should consider. Before you sit down to write
your profile, find out how others see you, so that
you can more adequately describe yourself as you
are seen. (You don't see yourself as others do -
probably) The best way to do this is ask around.
You don't have to tell anyone why - just ask for
one word that describes your looks, work habits,
home environment etc get a list and go from there.
Chances are you will come closer to a good description
of yourself that way than any other way.
To Post a Picture or Not To Post - That is the question
Well are you photogenic? You know even if you aren't
there has to be a picture somewhere of you that
looks good. Find it! Whoever said a picture is worth
a thousand words knew what the were talking about.
And let's face it - this is a shallow society -
we are attracted by looks in addition to pleny of
other things - but looks are definetly high on the
list. Not putting up a picture leads to suspicion
of whether you are attractive or not - what's wrong
with you! Put it up there.
Free Online Dating Services, Trials, and Charges
You get what you pay for - most of the time. Most
of the online dating services charge. It's a huge
market - just doesn't seem like it when you are
actually trying to find a date does it? The best
thing to do is find a trial service, or a service
that allows you to wink or send eye contact or a
smile to another party to let them know you are
interested. So if you both just send that and then
it goes nowhere you have to decide - are they worth
the fee to join the site to find out more. If you
do decide to join, keep in mind that most of these
sites won't let the other person respond without
also having a membership. That does not mean however
that you can't send them an alternate method of
contacting you. There is nothing more frustrating
than being contacted by someone you would like to
write back to, but no way to do that unless you
also join. Is it worth the fees? Some site editors
are not too bright either and you can sneak little
ways into your profile that allow future interested
parties a way to find you. Such as saying something
like - "I have the same name where the little
yellow man is" would tell someone that your
username at AOL would be the same as your username
on the profile and they might then contact you without
you either one buying a membership.
If you choose to post on more than one site, try
to spice each profile up a bit differently. No one
wants to read the same thing twice, and what you
might have missed out on saying in one profile may
be the thing that catches someone's attention on
another profile. Use different pictures too.
What to be Cautious of Online meeting has allowed
us to move a bit faster than traditional dating.
Your inhibitions all fall down when you are sitting
behind a computer screen and you can do or say or
flirt however you want and it's not as difficult
as it is face to face. What that usually leads to
is assuming you know someone better than you normally
would before you've ever had that first date - but
beware - their inhibitions were down too and they
may have come across a lot greater than they really
are.
Do You Take Down Your Profile When You Meet Someone?
Well - did they take down their profile? If they
did, and you are serious about being exclusive,
then you should take down your profile. (on all
the sites you have it up on) But if they haven't
and you aren't then leave it up. Think how many
fish swimming around in the sea might nibble on
your bait while you have it out there!
Perhaps getting online and flirting and maybe even
meeting up with someone is the push you need to
get out more and enjoy life. Maybe it leads to happily
ever after. Whatever it leads to enjoy it and yourself!
For more site specific advice and leads to the best
sites online, visit my website at www.themarketradar.com.
About The Author
HM Hovis holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Mass
Communication with an emphasis in Public Relations.
As a gifted writer, she writes both for fun and
for work. |
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